The question often goes unasked, especially for those embarking on their first foray into this captivating world of boudoir photography. Most individuals find themselves immersed in introspection, searching for their reasons to step into the studio and undergo a transformative experience. Some view it as a testament of love, while others see it as a declaration of boldness and empowerment. Then there are those who simply desire to be treated like royalty, relishing the pampering that life sometimes necessitates.
But once the “why” is firmly etched in their minds, the logistical considerations come into play. The realization dawns that they will need to shed not only their clothing but also their inhibitions for another’s lens. It becomes crystal clear that boudoir photography, despite being a trendy pursuit, is far from frivolous. The intensity of the experience can be uncomfortable for many.
So, here are some invaluable tips from a seasoned photographer with over a decade and a half of experience for all prospective intimate photography aficionados considering this journey.
The key, my friend, is to establish a deep bond and a profound respect and liking for your chosen photographer. Everything hinges on this selection. Don’t just love the art; love the artist behind it. Intimate art is alive, dynamic, and deeply personal. You can buy a masterpiece from a gallery without concerning yourself with the painter’s personality or soul. It doesn’t really matter because you’re acquiring the end product of the creative process. However, in the world of boudoir photography, you are an integral part of the creative endeavor. Those glamorous shots adorning websites might not manifest in reality if you don’t hold genuine affection for the artist responsible.
In short, don’t fixate on a photographer without having that face-to-face consultation. Opt for a skilled professional you genuinely enjoy working with over a maestro who leaves you uneasy. Start on the right foot, and the rest will likely follow suit.
Now, let’s address the elephant in the room – the importance of laying it all on the table during your boudoir photography consultation. Give your meeting a mere 15 minutes and challenge yourself to candidly share your fantasies with your chosen photographer. If you can’t muster the courage, if you feel hesitant or shy, it might be a sign that you’re not in sync with the photographer’s personality. In such cases, it’s best to keep searching for alternatives.
Building a connection with your photographer is vital, and social media can help bridge the gap. Consider inviting her to a private Pinterest board to collaboratively envision the session. The decisions you make regarding décor, clothing, makeup, and ambiance will provide a clear indication of how the actual shoot will unfold.
If you find yourselves at an impasse in the virtual realm, there’s a strong possibility that the shoot may turn into a stage for subtle power struggles. In such situations, it’s best to look elsewhere – you wouldn’t want to taint your special day with negativity.
I could lecture you endlessly on how to select a boudoir photographer with whom you feel comfortable. However, at the end of the day, your intuition should not be underestimated. When your gut feeling tells you that someone is the right fit, trust it. Rationality can only guide you so far.
With warmth and wisdom, Marisa Leigh
