Replacing fear with curiosity

Boudoir State of Mind, Editorial Boudoir

The Story of Grace

Growing up, Grace was admonished to dress modestly. To her parents, especially her mother, this meant not going sleeveless. Ever.

To Grace, it seemed that even though her friends’ parents might not have such strict standards, that those same rules were what made her just slightly more sophisticated than her peers, at least this is what her mom had told her whenever she had protested. A modest woman is a more desirable woman, her mom had said.

As she grew older, Grace continued to wear sleeves out of habit. Even under fun summer dresses, she’d wear a matching t-shirt.

That is, until one spring afternoon, Grace found herself in the dressing room at a department store stepping into a stunning sleeveless, shimmery cocktail dress. She told herself she just wanted “to see how it looked.”

The mirror convinced her to buy the dress on the spot, and she felt a newfound burst of confidence in herself she had never known before.

Grace had a great figure, and she had grown tired of hiding it.

It may seem like a simple thing to go from having sleeves to having none, but for Grace it was one of the most liberating experiences of her life. This feeling of freedom is the same feeling you get stepping off the street and into your Boudoir shoot. It thrills you to think, “I’ve never done this before,” or to wonder about the reaction of what the recipient of these images will be. You can imagine every little goosebump rising as you slip into your negligée.

You are literally jumping out of your skin. The result? Stepping out of your comfort zone and into Boudoir means stepping into a new shining version of you.

One where, like Grace, you don’t have anything to hide, nothing to fear, but so much to gain!

When we listen to the voices in our head as though they are law, we rob ourselves from true freedom.

We have to question everything, always be willing to look into the fear we are having and where it could be coming from.  When there is no real threat,  no hungry tiger running towards us then maybe we can start seeing fear for what it really is…

False

Evidence

Appearing

Real

Yes…. ok maybe it keeps us safe sometimes… buuuuut in a world where we don’t have to fight for our food or live in the jungle, instead we jump in a cozy bed every night with our perfect pillow and 500 tc sheets we should certainly be taking the leap into our our curiosity more often than not.

Surrender to the path of joy and replace fear with curiosity. I promise you’ll find a new freedom in letting go of what’s not actually keeping you safe, but holding your dreams hostage.

Everything you want is on the other side of fear -Jack Canfield

Ohh and if doing a boudoir shoot scares the shit you, and you seem to have every excuse in the book then you mostly definitely need to jump! #justdoit

Intimately Yours,

Marisa

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